The next morning, I rationally explained to him that if I would have gone into labor (I was 38 weeks at that point) I would not have allowed him into the l and d room. I was induced at 7pm, and about 1am my husband decided to go home and get some sleep (I hadnt slept at all either!) My son is adopted but we were able to be at the birth. These are hilarious! Im sure there are a ton of great husbands/partners out there. He thinks he's being 110% supportive, and says he will, but just drinking when I could go into labor any day is NOT supporting IMO. You can't drive yourself, and if he's been drinking that much then you are taking cab. Obviously if I am in labor I will not be driving myself but I am sure once we get closer to my EDD then he will slow it down. This can lead to further problems such as depression, anxiety, and social withdrawal. Nitrous oxide, a.k.a. He was about 4 minutes from the hospital but after 20 minutes he stillhadnt shown up. I like the suggestion that if he's buzzed, he's not invited into the delivery room, and HE has to call his folks to explain why THEY need to drive me to the hospital. , around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! First baby: Yes. It was her birthday and 12 days from her due date, her hubby had a few drinks and she went to the bathroom and her water broke. Among the no nos are the one that forbids his mom and dad and other men to come in during this private time and looking at your birth area. around 9 he came to bed, moved me over and tried to go to sleep. I was induced w/our first, and it took a while for things to kick in. He will have a beer or two these days, but knows not to get drunk during my last few weeks of pregnancy. Woo hoo! With my second I was in labor through the night, his dad kept asking if he could go home to sleep because I didnt need him there, he missed his bed and the hospital staff was disrupting his sleep. But when he does, he is belligerant and can't stop and just a few. Guess who is going to be taking care of the baby all night through? I was on the floor screaming with what I thought were bad early labor contractions, but later found out I was already in full labor. Using alcohol is not an appropriate way to cope with stress. When I insisted that it in fact had broken, he asked me if i was sure, and how did i know. If I was to go into labor when he was drinking he wouldn't be there and that's that. Be there to offer encouragement for labor and delivery. Bud Grace And Frankie Weight Gain . When I woke up after the operation, the nurses unceremoniously kicked me out, but because I didnt have a cellphone, I couldnt call him and I didnt have my own transport. I did tell him that HE would be the one calling them letting them know the situation. . When a child is born, act up, misbehaves, it is still our child. Start by selecting which of these best describes you! I jumped on board. Because she was in labor, he should have endured what, no food, no water, no bathroom, what is good enough? He doesn't drink that much EVERY night, but it happens, and I just KNOW with my luck, he will drink that much on the night I go into labor. My water broke in the middle of the night, we made our way to the hospital and once we arrived i was put in a wheel chair, wheeled into the elevator and left unable to walk because of pain while my husband went to find a free parking spot. And the idea that being in labor will sober up a buzzed husband is absurd, it may make him seem sober but I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that he'd blow over the limit (or really close to it) on a breathalyzer test--that's a great way to get to L&D, in a police cruiser while your husband goes to the drunk tank. It also happened to be the night of our annual street party. My hubby has a habit of drinking a lot (over 5 drinks in an evening) after a rough day at work, and I'm worried I'll go into labor, and he'll be extremely buzzed. I had a hellish time trying to breastfeed my newborn son (turns out he had a tongue thrust issue and didnt latch on until he was 5 weeks old ) and in the middle of the hospital room, amidst lactation consultants and even a sucking specialist , my husband announces : Honey, let me show you, this is how you do it. My daughters dad (who fortunately I had the good sense never to marry) kept his distance from me the last month or so of my pregnancy, which probably is what kept me from delivering in prison, but he wanted to be at the hospital for the birth. He went to smoke a cigarette before the midwife came to see me,and by the time he got back, I was already pushing. It was his decision. With our first child, he made me wait until the show Charlies Angels was done before leaving for the hospital. I beleive that 4th pregnancy has got to be my last. I asked him to rub my aching back and he refused. If it were me, I would tell him in no uncertain terms that if he wants to be there that he has to be 100% sober. Wear sneakers. These are all hilarious and I feel lucky that I do not have a funny story to write. but this isn't just within my relationships i'd say it's with friendships and working environment - REALLY envy those that have any guts to say what they feel. Pack your own hospital bag. Jaime Clark didn't feel contractions with her first baby, either. Labor and delivery for Baby #3 were pretty uneventful, but I made it clear that I considered being in the hospital a vacation of sorts. He slept it off too long, that should be the only issue, nit that he ate. My mom always tells the story of when she was in labor with my sister, on Thanksgiving Day, and somewhere around 20-so hours of labor my dad ate a full Thanksgiving dinner, turkey drumstick and all, right in front of her. A woman seduces her husband at Halloween party and then finds out he switched costumes with someone else. Were going to pop some bottles the celebrate the twins arrival. It is mean and very insensitive to the child. He would still have had alcohol in his system and in hindsight, a cab or ambulance would have been a better mode of transport. However, Phil and I are pretty much the masters of the silent fight. If something bothers them, well then, in front of all and sundry, they will pretty much have it out. I know that if I tell him I am uncomfortable with the amount he is drinking then I know he would take me seriously. We tackled more laundry. 26 years of marriage has taught me to make sure she is comfortable and has what she needs first and to be honest about what I need. I called him to come home and he suggested id feel better walking up and down the street. Amy Dickinson. This is the best Ive got: Silverstein had her first child in a hospital, with her husband present. According to the World Health Organisation. About a week later, when it all sunk in and I realised that I was that mother whose husband was basically flammable in the delivery suite, I realised I had been sitting on a teensy bit of suppressed anger. Haha Im going to have to share these stories with my boyfriend so he knows not to mess up next time. For the rest of her births, she delivered at home with midwives. I folded those clothes some more. So I called him to tell him to hurry and get there. Since I had to have a c-section he stayed in the hospital with me the 3 days sleeping on the couch and changed ALL the diapers. He finally agreed, but not until he took a shower and fixed himself breakfast! Hubbys problem is that he likes to talk. He didn't drink for the majority of my pregnancy, but then went out to a work function and came home wasted (he was driven home by a coworker). One 2013 study, found that even . Why would you say that to me in THE THROES OF LABOR? From what you've posted, your H has a serious problem. 45 minutes later, we left the house in a crazy snowstorm. Nice. When you go through what women go through in labor and delivery, you can tell us about being bitchy. . He happily, obliviously goes back to work. , Thats awesome. Oh, yeah, I am sure he will slow it down. Now is the perfect time to start your Baby Registry! My husband said that I should be more in pain, but I convinced him that we should still go to the hospital to get it checked, and that the worst thing that could happen was to get sent home. ! was my reply in the softest angry voice I could mutter. We called to tell him to come immediately. He is trying to lose some weight before the LO gets here. Prodromal labor can be as painful and uncomfortable as 'real' labor. He asked me to please give him a signal before I had a contraction (and they were, oh, 90 seconds apart) so he could mute the call in time. 3. He told me later he was definitely buzzed but me waking him up was the most sobering thing ever. What will you do if you're away or home sick but the baby needs to go to the ER at night because there is something serious going on? He complained he was sick and went to the ER. I told my husband in the morning that I had been in labor most of the night (he slept through it). It helps release oxytocin, which is the hormone that causes your uterus to contract. At 6am. Or speaking to each other in limited statements, such as Jack just shat his pants or the toilet is blocked. I'm guesing it's pretty important. laughing gas has been used as a form of pain relief since the late 1900's, although you're more likely to see it at the dentist's office than a birth center. Have you ever discussed this with friends and inquired about how much their husbands drink? I am not supporting buzz driving at all - but, it is amazing how much a woman in labor will sober up a man. You should also make sure to spend quality time with each other and remind yourselves why you fell in love in the first place. Are you kidding me? He had fallen back asleep. You willingly married and created a child with an annoying drunk and yethe's the stupid one. Know your own limitations. With my first child, my husband slept the entire time from time time i started having contractions to the time when i started to push. Listen to Token and others who have pointed out that there is a problem beyond driving to L&D. This must help. She gets anxiety from any surgery, so her anxiety was high. )My husband was engrossed by the Daytona 500. I was scared. I havent let him live that down. Last week, I made a simple request on the Mommy Shorts fanpage. My husband was behind me holding me up while I squatted when a nurse looked at him funny and said You dont look so hot. "When I [give] with just with my doula and midwife alone, I can allow myself to do whatever is needed to get the baby out," she says. With our third, he asked me to stretch out the pushing for 55 minutes so he would win the money pot at work. Yeah. The nurse had him switch out for my best friend and he scooted over to sit next to me on the bed and just as a nurse pushed a trash can in front of him he proceeded to PUKE LOUDLY next to me on the bed while I was in transition! If that isnt bad enough, he dropped my right leg DURING labor, to show my doctor the outfit my daughter would be wearing home! Ignore your husband's alcoholism and start getting used to doing things as a single parent. Yeah right. Preterm labor can be risky for you and your baby. I had just had twins by emergency c-section, 6 weeks early. Around 2am, I heard the scraping of a badly manoeuvred BBQ onto the deck and felt my husband flop down beside me into the bed. She was even . 7 min read. I had some see threw jammies to wear home >.<. It sounds like you and your H are both in denial (as apparently are a few other posters on this thread). I dont thnk so, Omgi cant stop laughing at the thong.Im in tears here When my contractions were less than 2mins apart, I told my husband we needed to leave. The following morning,he woke up very early and went to work! You know, because that is how alcoholism works. My husband devours some of the Popeyes chicken and then comes back in and sits with me and then falls asleep. Thats why I wish my daughter grows up to be gay. He's in sales and always has social work meetings where drinks are served, too, which doesn't help. There is absolutely a possibility she'll go into labor and need him. Children should be seen, and heard, and believed. Call a sibling or a friend and have them be at the ready to bring you to the hospital on the off chance your husband decides to booze it up with his co-workers. I would definitely tell him if he's buzzed he is not welcome in the delivery room because it will only cause you more distress while you're trying to bring your first child into this world. Epidurals are the pain relief of choice in the U.S. but that may be changing. I find it pretty fvcked up that you are okay with him drinking a "few drinks every night" since someone else can drive you to give birth to yours and HIS own child. About a month ago I asked him not to drink until after LO was here because I know it can get to the point that he should not be driving. Lets just say that he ended up spending the night in the hospital with me. And spell it out that being there means being sober for the next few weeks, (and really after the baby comes). But still no medal. Soon enough he gets a call from his mother asking how the delivery is going. This will enable you to stay focused and prevent you from giving in to temptation. I wish men weren't so stupid about some things. Its so crazy, right? Our son was born in the morning. I guess you were right. You think? My husband also told me at one point that hearing the doctor give me the episiotomy sounded like someone cutting raw chicken with scissors. Now I refuse to touch it so that I can pass it down to my own daughter. -Kirsti, My husband asked if he could borrow one of my pillows, because his back hurt and I had too many. By. You have much bigger issues and should seriosly consider looking into alanon. After being in labor all day and delivering at 9:00 at night we got almost no sleep. ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** I even brought him the timer and paper and pen, so he wouldnt have to get up. This happened a few times until I fit woke him up to tell him it was time to go to the hospital. I was sleeping when suddenly cramped stood up and my water broke. I sincerely wish you luck this will not be an easy road, but I hope you both find the strength you need for the sake of your baby. Then, after I finally pushed my baby out (an hour and a half of pushing), he complained about being exhausted. The heavy drinker, seemingly unaware of what is happening, become furious, resentful and enraged. Finally he gets into town, horses and all in the hospital parking lot, smelling like a branding! It is quite difficult to deal with an alcoholic husbands emotional abuse. Alcoholism is a condition that occurs when someone becomes dependent on alcohol to the point where it controls their life. Probably my biggest moment of suppressed anger started on the 2nd of December, 2006. He's turning 30 - his birthday isn't some magical day where responsibilities don't apply to him I'm currently TTC and my husband already knows that he isn't getting drunk during my entire final month (36 weeks on) unless there is a plan for someone else to drive me. This happened to my friend. Prodromal labor can last all day and into the night before stopping for a few hours.